Comments for nycandlove blog http://blog.nycandlove.com online dating exclusively for New York City Tue, 14 Jun 2011 17:32:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 Comment on Breaking Down The Break Up: How To End It With Someone You’re Not (Really) Dating by Wagurl http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/03/05/breaking-down-the-break-up-how-to-end-it-with-someone-you%e2%80%99re-not-really-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-4496 Wagurl Tue, 14 Jun 2011 17:32:35 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=22#comment-4496 I am having trouble breaking up with my kinda bf. Weve gone to a movie and stuff, and hes still kind into me( i think) and im scared to call him. what do i do? I am having trouble breaking up with my kinda bf. Weve gone to a movie and stuff, and hes still kind into me( i think) and im scared to call him. what do i do?

]]> Comment on The boy next door by j http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/10/05/the-boy-next-door/comment-page-1/#comment-3591 j Thu, 09 Dec 2010 21:49:43 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=567#comment-3591 <a href="#comment-3493" rel="nofollow">@The Indian:</a> @The Indian, I completely agree with everything you've said. I never really considered #3, but now that you mention it looking back, it's obvious that that's the case. I wonder if that's worth elaborating on further. @The Indian: @The Indian, I completely agree with everything you’ve said. I never really considered #3, but now that you mention it looking back, it’s obvious that that’s the case. I wonder if that’s worth elaborating on further.

]]> Comment on The boy next door by The Indian http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/10/05/the-boy-next-door/comment-page-1/#comment-3493 The Indian Wed, 24 Nov 2010 16:44:46 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=567#comment-3493 Regarding platonic friendship between men and women (who are young enough they still have strong sexual drives) - from a man's perspective, truly platonic friendship is possible under the following circumstances: 1. The woman already has a significant other whom the man likes/respects. 2. The man does not find the woman sexually attractive. I have female friends I have zero interest in fucking because they are simply not attractive enough to stir the trouser snake from his slumber. 3. The man and woman have already had sex (many of my close female friends fall into this category). Outside of these situations, it's not a mutually platonic relationship, but one where the man is hoping to eventually get into the woman's pants by hanging around the hoop. A very poor strategy on the man's part, but one that countless men engage in. Regarding platonic friendship between men and women (who are young enough they still have strong sexual drives) – from a man’s perspective, truly platonic friendship is possible under the following circumstances:
1. The woman already has a significant other whom the man likes/respects.
2. The man does not find the woman sexually attractive. I have female friends I have zero interest in fucking because they are simply not attractive enough to stir the trouser snake from his slumber.
3. The man and woman have already had sex (many of my close female friends fall into this category).

Outside of these situations, it’s not a mutually platonic relationship, but one where the man is hoping to eventually get into the woman’s pants by hanging around the hoop. A very poor strategy on the man’s part, but one that countless men engage in.

]]> Comment on The Perfect Match: But Where’s The Spark? by meh http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/02/28/the-perfect-match-but-wheres-the-spark/comment-page-1/#comment-3307 meh Mon, 25 Oct 2010 19:50:20 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=15#comment-3307 This is a well written article and I agree with much of what you say. The thing is, I am really beginning to hate the elusiveness and random nature of chemistry and sparks. I rarely feel the sparks for anybody but when I do, it is usually with the wrong person or wrong timing. I dated 2 guys in the past year that I did not feel instant sparks or attraction for. I think I had some anxiety which impeded my ability to feel all sparky at first but as my worries calmed, things got better. I continued dating them for a bit and the attraction and sparks grew. But then once I realized it, the guy was not interested in me anymore. It was very frustrating for me. I am dating a great guy right now but am not feeling all sparky with him and wonder if I was able to calm down, maybe I will feel something like before. It is also frustrating when you feel instant sparks for someone but they are not interested or not available. Why can't the sparks happen with the right person/right time? The sparks for me have usually been one-sided, either on my end or on the guy's, which means that my dating life pretty much sucks! This is a well written article and I agree with much of what you say. The thing is, I am really beginning to hate the elusiveness and random nature of chemistry and sparks. I rarely feel the sparks for anybody but when I do, it is usually with the wrong person or wrong timing. I dated 2 guys in the past year that I did not feel instant sparks or attraction for. I think I had some anxiety which impeded my ability to feel all sparky at first but as my worries calmed, things got better. I continued dating them for a bit and the attraction and sparks grew. But then once I realized it, the guy was not interested in me anymore. It was very frustrating for me. I am dating a great guy right now but am not feeling all sparky with him and wonder if I was able to calm down, maybe I will feel something like before. It is also frustrating when you feel instant sparks for someone but they are not interested or not available. Why can’t the sparks happen with the right person/right time? The sparks for me have usually been one-sided, either on my end or on the guy’s, which means that my dating life pretty much sucks!

]]> Comment on A Little Help From Your Friends? by Dori http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/09/21/a-little-help-from-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3097 Dori Thu, 07 Oct 2010 18:51:13 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=561#comment-3097 Wow, these comments. Well let me tell you, m, I'm CONSTANTLY in that same situation. My friends give me this strong advice, they talk to me as if my own inclination is wrong -- and advise me to act in ways that are just not me. I struggle with keeping their advice in my head and doing my own thing, which only leads to confusion and even more over analyzation (is that a word) than would have happened in the first place. I am trying to work on NOT taking anyone's advice -- no matter how wise it sounds -- and just do what feels like "me." I am not them and what worked for them, or even what works for everyone, might not be what is best for me. I am confident that the right guy will like me regardless. Wow, these comments. Well let me tell you, m, I’m CONSTANTLY in that same situation. My friends give me this strong advice, they talk to me as if my own inclination is wrong — and advise me to act in ways that are just not me. I struggle with keeping their advice in my head and doing my own thing, which only leads to confusion and even more over analyzation (is that a word) than would have happened in the first place.

I am trying to work on NOT taking anyone’s advice — no matter how wise it sounds — and just do what feels like “me.” I am not them and what worked for them, or even what works for everyone, might not be what is best for me. I am confident that the right guy will like me regardless.

]]> Comment on Turning XXX by The boy next door | nycandlove blog http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/09/14/turning-xxx/comment-page-1/#comment-3079 The boy next door | nycandlove blog Tue, 05 Oct 2010 11:37:05 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=543#comment-3079 [...] Now, friends, we all have one. A platonic best friend of the opposite sex. Or at least a best friend of the opposite sex who is now a platonic friend, but who may have been the boy you lusted after through high school or spent eight years sleeping with in between your serious relationships, only to find yourself back in a deep platonic friendship and both single as you both embark on adulthood. Also, he’s Jewish. [...] [...] Now, friends, we all have one. A platonic best friend of the opposite sex. Or at least a best friend of the opposite sex who is now a platonic friend, but who may have been the boy you lusted after through high school or spent eight years sleeping with in between your serious relationships, only to find yourself back in a deep platonic friendship and both single as you both embark on adulthood. Also, he’s Jewish. [...]

]]> Comment on A Little Help From Your Friends? by Tiffany http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/09/21/a-little-help-from-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3014 Tiffany Wed, 29 Sep 2010 20:28:17 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=561#comment-3014 Grow a pair, are you Kanye West? Because you should like a douchebag. Grow a pair, are you Kanye West? Because you should like a douchebag.

]]> Comment on A Little Help From Your Friends? by Tiffany http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/09/21/a-little-help-from-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3005 Tiffany Tue, 28 Sep 2010 15:29:36 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=561#comment-3005 <a href="#comment-2933" rel="nofollow">@kate:</a> Can I be your sage advisor? @kate:

Can I be your sage advisor?

]]> Comment on A Little Help From Your Friends? by Mir Mir http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/09/21/a-little-help-from-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3004 Mir Mir Tue, 28 Sep 2010 15:11:29 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=561#comment-3004 Someone's got a case of the dbag! Are you trying to be Gerard Butler in the Ugly Truth or something? (And please don't act like you haven't seen it). Fyi, you have to be hot to even TRY to pull that off. <a href="#comment-2936" rel="nofollow">@Grow a pair:</a> Someone’s got a case of the dbag! Are you trying to be Gerard Butler in the Ugly Truth or something? (And please don’t act like you haven’t seen it). Fyi, you have to be hot to even TRY to pull that off.

@Grow a pair:

]]> Comment on A Little Help From Your Friends? by Grow a pair http://blog.nycandlove.com/2010/09/21/a-little-help-from-your-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2936 Grow a pair Wed, 22 Sep 2010 18:18:07 +0000 http://blog.nycandlove.com/?p=561#comment-2936 You should take my advice and never date ever again. If you can't think for yourself and be your own person, you shouldn't be allowed the privilege of procreation. By the way, you sound hot, what're you doing Friday? I heard your friend say you should sleep with me. You should take my advice and never date ever again. If you can’t think for yourself and be your own person, you shouldn’t be allowed the privilege of procreation. By the way, you sound hot, what’re you doing Friday? I heard your friend say you should sleep with me.

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