I have an update for you about “Bad” from Dating and Communication Part II: The Double Edged Sword.
When he was Facebook messaging our mutual friend to ask her to hook a brother up, she suggested that if he really wants to give it one more chance with me, he should send me an email along the lines of “Hey d, I think you’re a really cool girl and we have a lot in common. We might have gotten off to the wrong start, but I’m interested in you and I hope we can meet.” Which would have been a sane and reasonable next step.
Does he take my friend’s sage advice? Or does he send me another instant message on [dating site] and spell my name WRONG.
You guessed it.
Wow. I was in shock. So, as I explained before, he knows my gmail address. He could have emailed me. He could have gchatted me, a much more acceptable form of instant message. Yet he chooses to instant message me on a DATING WEBSITE (which I don’t even see until I get an email after the fact, by the way). And to throw fuel to the fire, he misspells my name?!
We were Facebook friends, until he defriended me. We were gchat friends. We still are LinkedIn friends. My name is all over these places, and he couldn’t spell it correctly in a message to me?
Even worse, the message was disgustingly cheesy and cringe-inducing. It even rhymed.
“Hey de, what’s it gonna be?”
No joke. I immediately sent this to our mutual friend and she was in shock. She called me the next day, profusely apologizing again for not knowing he was crazy. Although she did suggest that the misspell might have been intentional, to be cutesy and match the word “be,” but I am more inclined to think he really spelled it wrong and had no idea. And that offends me.
It would have been one thing if I never heard from him again — after all, he did defriend me on Facebook. But I did hear from him again, and it wasn’t to take our friend’s good advice. No, it was to behave in the exact same way that made me scared of him in the first place!
Like I said, some people just don’t get it.
Have you ever dated someone who was clueless or just didn’t get it?
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Hey de, I cringe with ya. Mr. Bad of Facebook doesn’t represent all men. After all, a girl I was courting in my heyday gave me a card after lasting 3 months with me and spelled my name with an “I” at the end instead of “Y”. 3 months!!
Guess that’s pre-gmail and Internet craze so your Facebook dude has no excuse.